Harsh Realities Every Teenager Must Face Going Into Adulthood

Saw this topic posted on Reddit the other day and the funny thing is, I just had a similar discussion with my teenage sister not too long ago. I though I’d share with you some key points of our discussion and maybe this will help you on your journey.

Reality #1: The 5 transitional years between becoming a teenager to becoming an adult (legally) can be some of the most socially awkward, emotional, confusing, frustrating years of your life. It doesn’t matter if you’re one of the cool kids or the class clown, every teenager will go through this. Like the Kelly Clarkson song, “What doesn’t kill you makes you strong”, you’re going to grow and learn a lot from these awkward, emotional, confusing, and frustrating experiences. These years will mold you into the adult that you’ll one day be.

Reality #2: Your high school sweetheart…there’s a good chance he/she will not be the person you marry and that’s not necessarily a bad thing. It’s hard to figure out what you want in life, career, partner when you’re in high school. Some people get lucky and find their “one”. Most of us think we found “someone” but they’re definitely not the “one”. As you grow up, meet new people, make new relationships, leave relationships, you’ll learn more about yourself. You’ll know what kind of person you don’t want to be with, the kind of person you want to be with and what kind of life you want with that person. Listen to your mom and dad. Have fun. Be safe. Enjoy getting to know yourself first!

Reality #3: Mom and Dad will not be able to bail you out of sucky situations for the rest of your life. Sometimes because they don’t want to. Sometimes because they can’t. Think it’s fun to egg your neighbor’s house at night? Remember the Justin Bieber incident? Yup, it’s a crime. That’s why parents spend so much time teaching you how to be a responsible person so that you’ll be able to make good decisions in the future and know how to handle difficult situations. Know at the end of the day, you make your own choices on how to live your life. But remember that you’ll also have to live with the aftermath of your choices as well.

Reality #4: You may STILL not know what you want to do or who you want to be WAY after college graduation.and that’s perfectly okay. It takes time to know what you want and it takes even more time to go after it! I know you may think you need to figure it all out once you’re 21 years old.  I honestly did not know what I wanted to do at 21 years old. The best way to figure it out is to be open to opportunities, allow yourself to make mistakes, learn from them and absorb as much as you can.

Reality #5: The best way out is always through. Life is hard, easy, fun, sad, tiring, exciting, and etc. There will always be highs and lows. You just need to focus on your short term-long term goals, know that the lows will only be temporary. You can do it! Power through it! Surround yourself with positive people who will help you achieve your goals. Be the best version of you that you can be and let the universe take care of the rest.

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Top 9 Vday Gifts for Him, Her & Your Furry Friend

Valentine’s Day is fast approaching. Are you still trying to come up with a gift idea to give to your S.O.? We can help! Eddie and I each picked out 5 Vday gifts (a total of  10 gifts) we’d think will be great for the loves of you life. Check them out below:

Eddie’s Picks for Her

#1. Morse Code “LOVE” necklace – If you are thinking of getting a necklace for your girlfriend or wife for this Valentine’s, consider looking into the Morse Code “LOVE” necklace. I personally think it’s a cute necklace and it comes with Turquoise stones and gold bronze beads. The coolest thing about this necklace is that the gemstones with the 14K Gold Beads are combined to spell out “LOVE” in Morse Code. Now if you are going to get a necklace might as well get a cool one.

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Morse Code “LOVE” necklace  @ Huckberry

#2. Kindle Touch with a Kindle ebook (Go Set a Watchman: A Novel by Harper Lee) – If your girlfriend or wife likes to read and currently doesn’t own a Kindle this will seriously make a great gift. She can easily store all her favorite books on the Kindle and go through them one at a time, or several if that’s how she likes it. This is also perfect if she travels frequently. Instead of bringing physical books that take up the suitcase spaces she only needs to bring her Kindle. As for the book itself, it can literally be anything. I put ‘Go Set a Watchman by Harper Lee’ is because this is one of the books that I am planning to read next.

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Kindle Touch @ Amazon. ‘Go Set a Watchman: A Novel by Harper Lee’ @ Amazon

#3. Fitbit Flex Activity Tracker – This makes a great gift if your girlfriend or wife likes to exercise, or is someone who cares enough about her well being. This tiny tracker tells you how many steps you have taken; how many calories you have burned; how many miles you have walked; and your sleeping quality. This fun little device somehow can motivate you to be more active and to take more steps on a daily basis. Great gift for her and even better if you have one so you guys can compete and workout together.

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Fitbit Flex Activity Tracker @ Amazon

Bay’s Picks for Him

#1. Personalized Docking Station – I think this is a great gift for your “techy” boyfriend (or fiancé or husband). Not only is this docking station stylish, it will also help your man keep all of his small items organized. Plus you can customize your own message on the dock making the gift one of a kind.

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Personalized Docking Station @ Esty Shop Wudzeedotcom

#2. Herschel Supply Co. Novel Duffle Bag – If you made a New Years Resolution this year to travel more with your boyfriend, this is the great gift for him. Write him a Vday card to let him know how excited you are to go on more adventures with him and put it inside this Duffle Bag. It’s thoughtful AND practical.

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Herschel Supply Co. Novel Duffle Bag @ Amazon.com 

#3. R2D2 USB Car Charger  – This gift will probably win you the “coolest girlfriend” or “coolest wife” award. For the women or men who have S.O. who are obsessed with Star Wars, what better way to fulfill their Star Wars fantasy than to give them their own R2D2? This R2D2 car charger has 2 USB slots so you can charge multiple phones are once. Did I mention the head spins just like how it does in the movie?

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R2D2 USB Car Charger @ ThinkGeek.com 

Our Picks for the Furry Friend

#1. Heart ‘n Bears Plush Dog Toy – This cute little plush toy set will keep your puppy occupied for some time. The little pink bears are super cute and the heart plush shows your pup how much you love him/her. Okay, they probably don’t know what Valentine’s Day is but they’ll love the toy.

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Hearts ‘n Bears Plush Dog Toy @ Puplife.com

#2. Bark Box – What better way to tell your dog you love him/her than to provide a box of goodies every month. Ranging from $19 to $29 per month, Bark Box provides treats, toys, and chews in each box every month. Items are provided based upon you dog’s size. Shipping is free and you can cancel anytime. Start with a 3 months plan, try it and show your puppy some love.

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Bark Box @ Barkbox.com

#3. Doggie Massage – Our puppy tends to get leg cramps when she runs too hard. Sometimes during a game of catch, she would start limping and hopping on one feet. Dogs, like humans, can benefit from massage sessions. You can either give massage to your own pups or you can take them to a professional doggy massage parlor for some pamper and relaxation. Modern Dog Magazine has a great article that teaches you how to massage your dog. Check it out and let us know if your pup enjoys it.

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Photo from Dealbreaker.com

5 Tips on how to have a productive week

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Life is crazy. There’s always something going on. Work, school, friends, family, pets, kids, vacations, the list goes on and on. We try to do it all: multitask, delegate our responsibilities to our family, pet sitters, baby sisters. But it still can be pretty difficult for us to focus. Here are 5 tips that helps us focus to have a productive week:

# 1. Put your phone on airplane mode 30 minutes before you sleep.

We are guilty of being super attached to our phones. Our last activity of the day would be watching YouTube videos before turning off the lights to go to bed. Bad bad bad habit and it’s a habit we’re trying to break. By turning our phones on airplane mode 30 minutes before bed time gives us the opportunity to connect and talk to each other about our days. We talk about interesting things we saw, heard, learned. We share our goals for the week. We plan our weekends together. That 30 minutes each night not only help to strengthen our relationship but it also calms us and prepare us for a good night sleep. Better sleep can help you focus during the day.

# 2. Plan your weekly outfits and breakfasts on Sundays.

Mornings are the most hectic part of our day. We wake up. Wake our puppy up. Make sure she goes to the bathroom. Make sure she has clean water and fresh kibbles to eat for breakfast. Brush teeth. Wash face. Makeup. Play with puppy. Find clothes to wear. Make breakfast. Get our work bags ready. Find something to distract our puppy while we slip quietly out the door. Head to work. This whole process takes about 1 hr to 1.5hrs every morning. It will get even more hectic when we have kids of our own.

By planning our weekly outfits and breakfast on Sundays, it takes away the stress of putting it together while we’re trying to do a million other things AND trying to not be late for work. You can have a clothing rack in your room and hang all of your planned outfits from Monday through Friday. Each morning, you simply pick a set of clothing from the rack and move on with your day. For breakfast, try the mason jar breakfast method. Pack all of your breakfast into mason jars for Monday through Friday and set them in the fridge. Every morning, you can grab and eat it at home or you can grab and go to work.

Even if planning your outfits and your breakfast ahead of time does not save you too much time from your morning routine it will definitely save you a lot of stress. Less stress equals a happier you and gives you a great start each day to have a productive week.

# 3. Make appointments with your social media.

We have a love and hate relationship with all of our social medias. It’s great to use those platforms to connect with your friends, get ideas, plan events but let’s be honest, it’s super addictive and can become a total distraction. If you’re a virtual social butterfly like us, you don’t have to unplug completely. Simply make an appointment with your social media! In other words, set specific times during the day where you can splurge your time to check your Twitter, Facebook, Instagram, Snapchat, etc. You can set little alarms on your phone to let you know when it’s time to connect and when it’s time to disconnect.

# 4. Make daily to-do lists. Review, implement and check it off. 

To-do lists are the best way to keep organized and focused no matter if you’re a student, a working professional or just a regular person trying to get stuff done. We like to make our to-do list for the next day the night before so that it’s fresh in our memories the next morning and we know exactly what we have to do.

Include events and meetings in your to-do list to remind you of places you have to go. By writing down the meetings we have to attend the next day, it gives us the peace of mind to know the time and place ahead of time so that we’re not the last one to walk into the meeting. Or worse, walking late into a meeting.

# 5. Take a walk (and leave your phone in your bag/back pocket).

We really enjoy taking walks in the evening after dinner. It gives us a chance to relax, get some exercise, get our puppy some exercise and it’s another great moment for us to connect and talk. Since our walks are usually a few hours before bed time, we would have more engaging and exciting discussions during that time. We’d discuss current events and celebrity gossip, we’d debate, we’d  throw around ideas for this blog, we’d train our puppy and etc. Our energy is high, we speak loudly, we laugh, we release a lot of the stress we gathered throughout the day and we simply have fun. It’s a great way for us to reset and re-energize for the next day.

That’s our top 5 list. Give it a try and let us know how they worked for you. We’d LOVE to hear some tips from you as well. Please share and comment below!