Saw this topic posted on Reddit the other day and the funny thing is, I just had a similar discussion with my teenage sister not too long ago. I though I’d share with you some key points of our discussion and maybe this will help you on your journey.
Reality #1: The 5 transitional years between becoming a teenager to becoming an adult (legally) can be some of the most socially awkward, emotional, confusing, frustrating years of your life. It doesn’t matter if you’re one of the cool kids or the class clown, every teenager will go through this. Like the Kelly Clarkson song, “What doesn’t kill you makes you strong”, you’re going to grow and learn a lot from these awkward, emotional, confusing, and frustrating experiences. These years will mold you into the adult that you’ll one day be.
Reality #2: Your high school sweetheart…there’s a good chance he/she will not be the person you marry and that’s not necessarily a bad thing. It’s hard to figure out what you want in life, career, partner when you’re in high school. Some people get lucky and find their “one”. Most of us think we found “someone” but they’re definitely not the “one”. As you grow up, meet new people, make new relationships, leave relationships, you’ll learn more about yourself. You’ll know what kind of person you don’t want to be with, the kind of person you want to be with and what kind of life you want with that person. Listen to your mom and dad. Have fun. Be safe. Enjoy getting to know yourself first!
Reality #3: Mom and Dad will not be able to bail you out of sucky situations for the rest of your life. Sometimes because they don’t want to. Sometimes because they can’t. Think it’s fun to egg your neighbor’s house at night? Remember the Justin Bieber incident? Yup, it’s a crime. That’s why parents spend so much time teaching you how to be a responsible person so that you’ll be able to make good decisions in the future and know how to handle difficult situations. Know at the end of the day, you make your own choices on how to live your life. But remember that you’ll also have to live with the aftermath of your choices as well.
Reality #4: You may STILL not know what you want to do or who you want to be WAY after college graduation.…and that’s perfectly okay. It takes time to know what you want and it takes even more time to go after it! I know you may think you need to figure it all out once you’re 21 years old. I honestly did not know what I wanted to do at 21 years old. The best way to figure it out is to be open to opportunities, allow yourself to make mistakes, learn from them and absorb as much as you can.
Reality #5: The best way out is always through. Life is hard, easy, fun, sad, tiring, exciting, and etc. There will always be highs and lows. You just need to focus on your short term-long term goals, know that the lows will only be temporary. You can do it! Power through it! Surround yourself with positive people who will help you achieve your goals. Be the best version of you that you can be and let the universe take care of the rest.